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Monday, March 8, 2010

Long Overdue Update


I have been so remiss in keeping the blog updated.. and there is so much I want to share and remember. This will most likely be our only pregnancy, so I really want to remember the feelings, decisions, preparation.. all of it.

Also, I have gotten amazing advice from other mothers of multiples.. and if I don't write all of this down, i won't be able to help others that come after me!

(I have heard more than one mother tell me you lose your memory after you have kids, so I must start capturing all of this, or else it will be gone forever!)

So, today I am 30 weeks and 3 days! Oh my! I had to go look at my blog to tell me. I actually thought I was still 29 weeks and something. (Does the memory loss start before birth?)

I am really feeling great! Sure, I have the occasional (read: trying to be positive, but I really mean constant) back pain. And, oh, I have trouble sleeping (read: I literally wake up every 45 minutes to go to the bathroom. And repositioning three pillows each time I come back to bed in my sleepy state is far from easy) .. but really, all things considered I feel great!

I am no longer worried about pre-term labor. I feel very comfortable that my babies will come when they are ready. I really trust my body and these babies to do the right thing and come when they are ready.

I am actually thankful for our IVF experience for teaching me about trusting my body. Doing IVF and being successful on our natural frozen cycle gave me confidence in my body. Being successful on our FET, after all we went through also gave me confidence in these babies. Since it was our second try at IVF, these are not the two "best" embryos, they are the "second best." (according to the embryology grading) These babies survived fertilization and ICSI. They survived biopsy of one of their cells when they only had 8. They survived poking and prodding by our fabulous embryologist. They survived being frozen for three months. And then they survived being thawed out. And they knew enough to dig in, implant and hang on in my uterus. They are wonderful little babies!

And they will come when they are ready.

But on that note, babies, Please don't come soon.. because we are not ready either!

It's amazing how much there is to do before they come. I keep reminding myself of all there is to do, and then I have to remind myself that not EVERYTHING is absolutely essential. Yes, we need a rug for the concrete-stained floor in the nursery. However, I don't expect that they will come out walking, and tummy time probably won't be happening right away either, so if we don't have a rug and they come home, it's really okay.

However, we will need diapers. I do need to get the birth plan done. We need to sign up and get the supplies for the cord blood registry thing. I need some nursing bras. We need mattresses for the cribs. We need to decide on a pediatrician. (Not that we can't change after they are are here, though) Oh yeah, and at some point, the babies will need names. They can't go by A and B or girl and boy forever.

And a stroller. Stroller is on the top of our "OOPS!" list. Here's the story.. We bought this fancy new-to-us crossover SUV that we just love. And I went to buy the Double Snap and Go from another mother of twins. Mind you, for those not in the know.. the Double Snap and Go is the ONLY stroller on the market, uh, the only stroller in existence that works for infant twins. The only one. Never in a thousand years did I think that it But nope, it won't. So, therefore, we have no stroller options. And I am not carrying two of them in thier car seats. Not humanly possible. And although I do plan to be a baby-wearer, i don't think I'll be a babies-wearer.. Uh, yeah.. and we're not buying another car. And two strollers.. not exactly practical for all the time.. So.. what do do?

My wonderful husband to the rescue.. He decides he has the perfect solution.. and really it is. We will get a hitch put on the car and install a bike rack. And the double snap and go.. (it's really just a frame that two infant car seats fit into) will fit on the bikerack. There will even enable room in the back trunk for other stuff. It's brilliant really. And I'm sure the bike rack idea was not at all motivated by the fact that my husband has been a cyclist for like 10 years and perhaps could also use the bike rack to go on a bike ride with one of his 5 or 6 bikes. It's brilliant, really and dual-purpose. And will work perfectly. Now I just need to get a hold of that mom again and tell her I still want her DSAG.

ok, this post is long enough... and I've rambled on about nothing.

Next time I'm going to talk about our plans for a drug-free natural birth of these babies. Because I am so so exited about it! Let me first say that I respect everyone's choice around this.. and that there is no medal for natural childbirth, and I'm not looking to be a hero or anything.. this is just my choice.. and I believe I can do it, and that we are uniquely made for it. So no judgment of anyone else's choices whatsoever.. but I will look forward to sharing my thoughts and hearing yours.

Hold me accountable. I'm going to write again tomorrow. I have a doctor appointment, so I'll be able to write about that.


BB said...

Haha... I am coming across several SUV stories... Here is ours - we bought a 7 seater full size SUV! AND our car seats barely fit in the 2nd row!! Front seats can't be in a relaxing position and gettting to the 3rd row is a circus!

May be twin families need a Hummer and their production should not be stopped!

So glad things are going well for you!

cheryllookingforward said...

I never thought about how big twin strollers are! We had trouble finding a stroller that would fit in our little cars for just one baby. We ended up with the standard snap and go.
I can't wait to hear about your appointment!

Sunny said...

Congrats on breaking into the 30s! You have such a great attitude about IVF, giving birth, and having twins... you'll be a great mom.

Hope your appointment goes well!

Baby Smiling In Back Seat said...

I have a Double Decker stroller, which also holds infant twins' car seats (and is smaller than a Snap N Go since it's stadium seating instead of front to back), and next I'm getting the Baby Jogger City Select, which works with car seats or bassinets (or regular seats, which is what I'll be doing). The Double Decker takes up most of my small trunk, but the City Select folds quite flat.

lilly said...

so good to hear from you again! i check frequently, so i'm going to be holding you to your word to post again tomorrow. :)
glad you are doing so well...and your husband is brilliant with the bike rack!!
glad all is well......and thanks for your comments on my blog.

Michele said...

I have a Duoglider stroller that works great and has since we brought the twins home. Their infant seats snap in and it has fit in SUVs and sedans. In our XC90, it fits even with our 3rd row seating engaged! I like it better than our SNG which I've only used twice!