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Thursday, August 27, 2009

A transfer story

My acupuncture appointment was set for 7:30, the doctor consult at 9:00 and the transfer at 9:45. I didn’t sleep all night, partially because I was so excited and partially because I could not stop thinking about work. So I set the alarm for 5:45am because we had some BD business to take care of, per doctor’s orders, of course. (and not just doctor Google, yes, I even asked my doctor and he confirmed!) During the BD, I was thinking, now I can say that we had sex on the day we got pregnant. No causal relationship, but whatever.

Ann, our embryologist called when I just got off the acupuncture table, and said that both blasts survived the thaw and are expanding. Woo Hoo.

The two embryos were both frozen on Day 5 last May. From the numbers last time, we transferred #1 and #6. They were 5BB and 5AB. The first one is a CF carrier, and the second one is completely unaffected and not a carrier. Since we did the chromosomal testing, we know that the first one is a girl and the second one is a boy. The two we have left to freeze are both boys.

Our transfer room had two fancy chocolates on the “bed.” Such a nice touch. One blue, one pink. (Well, the pink one was actually red, but whatever, I used my imagination to make it applicable.) So we are sitting there in the transfer room. Carlos is playing with the music, and I am drinking water, wrapped up in two blankets and waiting for the valium to take effect. Carlos brought the music again this time, his Mac with itunes, so he could just pick the songs he felt best. We listened to Christian praise music in the pre-transfer, check-my-bladder time.

So since we are just sitting there, waiting. I’m thinking 10 steps into the future. I asked Carlos if we get pregnant with a boy this time, what are we going to do next time? Theoretically we would like two children, a boy and a girl. And Carlos thinks it’s ideal to have the boy first, then the girl. Which is how it is in his family. And it totally works.

We probably should be way past thinking so ideally, but clearly we're still optimistic. Anyway, I wanted to know if he'd be interested in having two boys and then trying again for a girl, which of course, would mean a fresh cycle, I am making several major assumptions this time.

#1. that we get pregnant with one boy this time, have a healthy baby.
#2,that the two boys survive the thaw next time and we get pregnant with a singleton (the assumption that the next FET would be a boy is backed up by science.).

And there are actually a ton more smaller assumptions in there. I realized I was making LOTS of assumptions and decided to slow down my line of questioning. He said, let's just see what happens this time. And he's right. So, it’s a good thing the doctor walked in at that moment to get me ready for the transfer. My bladder was full, I was open and ready, and then the embryologist brought in our babies in a catheter.

Carlos played American Baby by Dave Matthews Band. It's the perfect transfer song. The refrain is

Stay beautiful baby.
I hope you stay American Baby.
American baby.

And that's exactly my prayer and wish. Please stay for the next nine months. I can’t wait to meet you then.

18 comments:

EWebey said...

Keeping everything crossed!!!! Stick little bean, stick!!!!

donna said...

I'm thinking of you and hoping that it turns out how you want it to.

Michele said...

Praying for your babies to stick and grow well...

Brenna said...

I've never though about that DMB song as a perfect song for IVF or FET, but you're absolutely right! I'm wishing you so much luck... Stay, baby(ies), stay!

sophia said...

Such a beautiful event. Thinking good thought for you and Carlos and your American Baby!

JJ said...

Sounds like the transfer went well! I'm hoping that things are happening for you.... Sending sticky vibes!

notaclowncar said...

Good luck, Gabby - I'm thinking of you. I had my transfer today, too (fresh). We can wait out our 2ww together. :)

'Murgdan' said...

Wishing you all the best in the world....FET works, you know! :-)

Pie said...

Oh Gabby, I am sending you all the sticky vibes in the world. I hope you are resting and those beautiful blasts are nestling in.

Mrs. Gamgee said...

Senging lots of prayers and good thoughts your way!

The chocolates are a very nice touch! :)

ICLW

Sonja said...

Wishing you the best!!

Sonja
~ICLW

KJ said...

Hey sweetie!! My laptop was broken the last week, i just got a new one and I just caught up on everything and I see I am just in time to wish you lots of sticky baby dust. Please please call me during your 2ww, I'd love to catch up. I'm praying for you. And having two boys is not so bad. :)

sassy said...

Wow. I'm really thinking about you and your little blasties. Can't wait to hear news!

Fertility Chick said...

Thank you for visiting my blog! Thinking of you during this time and sending lots of good thoughts your way! I will continue to follow your journey! (PS - Love that song!)

ICLW

Wishing 4 One said...

Beautiful transfer day. The most beautiful one i have read about. Sending super yummy sticky thoughts your way.....

Beautiful Mess said...

Sorry I'm late but I'm making up for it by sending you lots of positive thoughts!
*HUGS*

twelvegrapes said...

Thinking of you guys and sending you peace and good vibes! Chocolates on the bed is such a neat touch.Stickey, stickey, stickety-stick!!! :)

thehuntformyfertility said...

thinking of you, gabby, and wondering how you're doing. hoping you are well.....lilly